
The slippery stuff that makes sex even better: lube. If you find yourself in the heat of the moment without any left in the bottle, you might be tempted to reach for a household alternative. With this guide, we’ll explain which substitutes are okay to use—and which are best avoided.
No lube at home? Not in the mood (or too shy) to buy it at the store? Allergies or past bad experiences with lube? All good reasons to look for alternatives. Here's your do’s and don’ts guide to lube substitutes.
What makes a product suitable as a lubricant?
For a product to be considered a safe lube alternative, it should meet these criteria:
- Safe for the skin—especially the sensitive area down there
- Compatible with condoms and sex toys
- Does not cause (vaginal) infections
- Provides good glide and doesn’t dry out too quickly
Safe natural alternatives
Are plant-based oils a good alternative?
The Romans didn’t just cook with olive oil... Sunflower oil, coconut oil, and other plant-based oils are often mentioned as natural alternatives to lube.
But be cautious! While opinions differ, it’s generally advised against using oil-based products with plastic or silicone sex toys or other porous materials. Oil is okay with toys made of metal, glass, or ceramic.
Oil can clog pores, cause pimples or irritation, and disrupt the pH balance of the vagina, leading to infections or bacterial vaginosis. Coconut oil even has antibacterial properties. But that’s not always a good thing, since healthy bacteria protect your vagina and penis. For anal use, these risks are less pronounced.
Lastly, oil can leave stubborn stains on your sheets.
So only use natural oils as a last resort: one-time use if there’s nothing else available—or for anal play with a metal, glass, or ceramic toy.
Can you use saliva as lube?
Saliva is a practical, always-available option—and sustainable too. But it dries up much faster than oil-based substances and doesn’t provide long-lasting lubrication.
Unsafe alternatives to lube
We often see these mentioned in blogs or conversations—but they are definitely not a good idea:
- Baby oil: increases the risk of infection.
- (Liquid) soap: perfumes, alcohol, and chemicals in soap are too harsh for the delicate skin down there—for both penises and vaginas.
- Water: anyone who's had sex in the bath knows it doesn’t actually glide well.
- Sunscreen: sounds adventurous, but better not during your beach quickie.
Can I use baby oil as lube?
It’s not recommended. Baby oil isn’t made for intimate use, can damage condoms, increase infection risk, and is hard to clean off. Stick to a water-based lube made for intimate use.
Is Vaseline a good alternative?
Many people keep Vaseline in the nightstand. It works well for solo play involving penises. But it’s less suitable for vulvas or vaginas and can cause infections.
It’s also not condom-safe—especially with latex condoms.
What are good alternatives to lube?
Don’t want a flashy, ugly bottle on your nightstand? Sensitive to synthetic ingredients in commercial lubes? Prefer not to put anything artificial near your most delicate skin?
Then try Aia*’s natural water-based lubricant. It’s made with just a few natural, pH-neutral, and cruelty-free ingredients. The shorter the ingredient list, the less chance of irritation or exposure to harmful substances like parabens.
Frequently asked questions
Can I use natural lube as lubricant?
Yes! Natural lubes like our 100% natural version are specially designed for intimate use. They’re typically water-based, pH-balanced, and won’t cause irritation.
Can I use Vaseline as lube?
Some people have used Vaseline, but it's generally not recommended because it’s not condom-safe, can increase the risk of infection, and lasts too long. You're better off choosing a lube designed specifically for intimate use.
Can I use shampoo as lube?
Strongly discouraged. Shampoo isn’t made for intimate areas and can irritate sensitive skin and disrupt the vaginal pH balance, leading to infections.
Can I use massage oil as lube?
Some massage oils might double as lube, but use caution. The Aia* massage oil is not suitable for intimate use. Always check the ingredients, avoid fragrance, and patch-test for allergies. Make sure it’s condom-safe and won’t irritate your skin or disrupt pH balance.
Can I use sunflower oil as lube?
Sunflower oil is not recommended. It may be incompatible with condoms, irritate the skin, and upset vaginal health. Choose a lube made for intimacy instead.
Can I use coconut oil as lube?
Coconut oil is sometimes used as a natural lube, but be cautious. While it feels smooth, it can degrade condoms and disrupt pH balance, increasing infection risk. Use a purpose-made lube instead.
Can I use aloe vera gel as lube?
Aloe vera gel is usually pH-neutral and gentle. It can work as a mild, soothing option—but often lacks staying power. Watch for alcohol in the ingredients, which can irritate.
Can I use jojoba oil as lube?
Jojoba oil is pH-neutral, hypoallergenic, and safe for most materials. However, don’t use it with latex condoms—it can break down latex.
Can I use vitamin E oil as lube?
Vitamin E oil is hydrating and often pH-neutral but may be too thick for comfortable use. Avoid using it with latex as it can weaken it.
Can I use argan oil as lube?
Argan oil is moisturizing and usually pH-neutral. It’s safe for skin but can damage latex condoms—so don’t use it with latex.
Summary:
Ultimately, a natural water-based lube is the safest and best alternative to conventional drugstore options.
Plant-based oils can be a last resort, but they’re not great for your genitals—or your bedding.
Same goes for Vaseline, baby oil, soap, water, and sunscreen: all poor choices as lube substitutes.
Saliva is okay in a pinch, but nothing beats the real thing.
👉 Want a smooth experience? Choose a natural water-based lubricant from Aia*. We also offer a delay gel and a stimulating gel. Here’s a handy overview:
Product | Suitable as lubricant? |
---|---|
Lubricant based on water, silicone or oil |
✓ |
Saliva | ✓ |
Vaseline | x |
Baby oil | x |
Sunflower oil | x |
Soap | x |
Water | x |
Sunscreen | x |
Shampoo | x |
Toothpaste | x |
Aloe vera gel | x |
Jojoba oil | x |
Vitamin E oil | x |
Argan oil | x |